What Narcissists Do What is Narcissistic Abuse? Abuse may be emotional, mental, physical, financial, spiritual, or sexual. Here are a few different examples of abuse you may not have identified: Verbal abuse: Constantly demanding, using sarcasm, interrupting, opposing, criticizing or blaming. Manipulation: Think of a “wolf in sheep’s clothing.” On the surface, the words seem harmless, even complimentary; but underneath you feel demeaned or sense a hostile intent. Emotional Blackmail: Include threats, warnings, intimidation, or punishment. Provoking doubt, fear, obligation, and/or guilt. Gaslighting: Intentionally making you distrust your perceptions of reality or making you believe that you’re mentally incompetent. Competition: 'One-upping' to always be on top, sometimes through unethical means. E.g. cheating in a game. Negative Contrasting: Unnecessarily making comparisons to negatively contrast you against the narcissist or other people. Sabotage: Trying to disrupt your endeavours or relationships for personal advantage. Exploitation and Objectification: Using or taking advantage of you without regard for your feelings or needs. Lying: Persistent deception to avoid responsibility or to get what the narcissist wants. Withholding: such things as money, sex, communication or affection from you. Neglect: Ignoring the needs of their child. Includes child endangerment; i.e., placing or leaving a child in a dangerous situation. Privacy invasion: Looking through your things, phone, or mail. Denying your physical privacy or stalking/following you. Character Assassination or Slander: Spreading malicious gossip or lies about you to other people. Violence: This includes blocking your movement, pulling hair, throwing things, or destroying your property. Financial abuse: Isolation: Isolating you from friends, family, or access to outside services and support. Narcissism and the severity of abuse exist on a continuum; It may range from ignoring your feelings to violent aggression.