What is Narcissistic Abuse?

Abuse may be emotional, mental, physical, financial, spiritual, or sexual.

Here are a few different examples of abuse you may not have identified:

Verbal abuse:

  • Constantly demanding, using sarcasm, interrupting, opposing, criticizing or blaming. 

Manipulation: 

  • Think of a “wolf in sheep’s clothing.”
  • On the surface, the words seem harmless, even complimentary; but underneath you feel demeaned or sense a hostile intent.

Emotional Blackmail: 

  • Include threats, warnings, intimidation, or punishment.
  • Provoking doubt, fear, obligation, and/or guilt.

Gaslighting:

  • Intentionally making you distrust your perceptions of reality or making you believe that you’re mentally incompetent.

Competition:

  • 'One-upping' to always be on top, sometimes through unethical means. E.g. cheating in a game.

Negative Contrasting:

  • Unnecessarily making comparisons to negatively contrast you against the narcissist or other people.

Sabotage:

  • Trying to disrupt your endeavours or relationships for personal advantage.

Exploitation and Objectification:

  • Using or taking advantage of you without regard for your feelings or needs.

Lying:

  • Persistent deception to avoid responsibility or to get what the narcissist wants. 

Withholding: 

  • such things as money, sex, communication or affection from you.

Neglect:

  • Ignoring the needs of their child.
  • Includes child endangerment; i.e., placing or leaving a child in a dangerous situation.

Privacy invasion:

  • Looking through your things, phone, or mail.
  • Denying your physical privacy or stalking/following you.

Character Assassination or Slander:

  • Spreading malicious gossip or lies about you to other people.

Violence:

  • This includes blocking your movement, pulling hair, throwing things, or destroying your property.

Financial abuse:

Isolation:

  • Isolating you from friends, family, or access to outside services and support.

Narcissism and the severity of abuse exist on a continuum;

It may range from ignoring your feelings to violent aggression.